Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents: Practical Tools to Establish Boundaries and Reclaim Your Emotional Autonomy

For any of you who come from narcissistic parents or maybe you suspect that something is off with them, this is the book for you. Lots of helpful tips and personal stories from adult children who are now in therapy. There is definitely a sense of validation that you will gain from reading this. Whether it's your parents, siblings, spouses, or coworkers who appear to be emotionally immature or narcissistic, this book will help you better understand them and yourself. I have read other books by the author and they are also quite helpful. I would absolutely recommend this book if you are trying to do the work and go through the healing process.

All of the authors books on this subject are so valuable. After spending years in and out of therapy for trauma from being in a relationship with EI parents, it was a relief to find these books. The only thing I wish was included that I didn’t find was more information on and validation for those people who are exhausted from the emotional burden of trying to make it work and are ready to go no contact with EI parents. I felt like there was a lot of information on how to change yourself to “be” in a new way around them, bordering on parenting them. But I have done that my whole life and now I just want out. I wish there was more on dissolving the relationship. She briefly mentioned some people may choose to go no contact and then states that that has its toll.Having said that, this series from this author has been the most valuable resource I have come across on the subject. So grateful for her wisdom and understanding.

This book, written for (as the title suggests) adult children of emotionally immature (EI) parents, provide wonderful insights into the psychology of EI people. Regardless of the emotional level of your parents, these books are a must-read for everyone. Why? Gibson kindly and directly delivers clear insights into EI behavior, which applies to any adult in your life.As you move to the second book, Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents: Practical Tools to Establish Boundaries and Reclaim Your Emotional Autonomy, you learn the tools and tactics to deal with EI people in your life. Gibson approaches the material to focus on what you can do (or not do) to deal with EI adults. This book focuses on being true to yourself while understanding how to manage your interactions with EI people.Gibson does a superb job of sharing direct context about EI people. She pulls no punches about EI people's damage but gives space to encourage growth and break the multi-generational trauma.

I thought this book was an excellent follow up to Dr. Gibson's first book entitled, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents. Although both books center on parental figures, the insights could apply to any emotionally immature person that one encounters in the family unit, professional setting, religious community, team, etc. This new book in particular offers a lot of rich examples and valuable reflective exercises that make concrete experiences that were previously confusing, unsettling, or traumatizing yet might have been quite normalized due to a child's context. Even as adults, this book is invaluable because what we're exposed to as children can at times become sources of comfort and familiarity even when these situations/dynamics might be detrimental to us in the long run.This book really equips people with effective strategies that can help people manage interactions effectively. This also prompts useful self reflection about instances or enduring vulnerabilities where someone who many not be consistently emotionally immature (as a general personality or character trait) might be in an emotionally immature way during certain situations.Dr. Gibson's insights on EIP's experience of time, mental clutter, the differences between tyrannical voices/shame/guilt and conscience and the Bill of Rights are awesome contributions to knowledge and offer so much to the recovery process. I highly recommend this book for anyone who wants to better manage the interactions and relationships in their lives while also improving their own relationship to their inner world.

This book has been the biggest eye opener for me. I realize so much now and this book has helped me over come my anger. It brings a level of understanding that I never had before.

I previously read Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents and I really recognized myself in it. It was a relief to finally got answers and some better understanding about my childhood and why I am the way I am today. I was hoping for new advices in this one but it's kind of similar to the other one, I still enjoyed reading it since I has been a while since I read the other one.

I wish I would’ve read this 20 years ago! But I’m happy I now have the tools to deal with emotionally immature people around me. The author explains things so well and the tools are easily to implement.

This is hands down the best most helpful, practical and constructive book I have ever read to help me navigate painful decision-making regarding my biological family after a childhood of being sexually abused by my father and being made a scapegoat.The issue is complex with each individual family member being pulled into my father's EIP patterns, and my mother herself being an EIP, and I denied the reality of this for so long because it was too painful. I have heart-breaking things to come to terms with and needed a really thorough understanding of their patterns that I have become enmeshed with even while distancing for some time now. This author has helped me to feel confident in the decisions I will make moving forwards.I recommend support while reading this from a counsellor, support centre or someone solid in your life who can hold what may come up for you, if you have a background similar to mine.. For me, it's a relief to have this information. I would like to thank the author for sharing her expertise in such a practical, affirming and loving way.It is worth mentioning that the final chapter is not applicable in cases like mine...'Now You Can Have The Relationship You've Always Wanted.' This is neither possible nor safe, certainly with my father whom I will probably never see again. This chapter and the whole book is useful when considering if/how to move forward with other family members aside from my father. This also may not be possible, based on what has already materialised with them all. The book does not address exactly my situation, but I still value it highly for all the helpful support it has given me regarding the challenges I have had and in understanding how I have been treated emotionally & psychologically by all members including my father.

Bellissimo libro di self help. Molto raccomandato

As someone who had difficult childhood, I found this book helpful and insightful.

Ich kann jeder/jedem, der mit diesem Thema zu tun hat, das Buch wärmstens ans Herz legen. Ich habe selten ein Buch gelesen, dass so einfühlsam und wissend dieses schwierige Thema behandelt. Man muss sich nicht erst einmal durch endlose Beispiele hindurcharbeiten, sondern die Autorin kommt schnell zum Kern. Man spürt, wieviel Erfahrung sie in der Begleitung von Menschen hat, die dieses spezifische Verhalten von Menschen erlebt haben und deren Leben hiervon geprägt wurde. Sie vermeidet harsche Schuldzuweisungen und bekräftigt auf gute Weise das eigene Fühlen, Denken und Handeln, gibt Anregungen auch. Das 2. Buch von der Autorin zum Thema habe ich ebenfalls bestellt, habe aber mit diesem angefangen und fühle mich bereits total bereichert und erleichtert. Es lohnt sich wirklich, sich Zeit hierfür zu nehmen, es also nicht einfach zu konsumieren. Kein Therapiegespräch hat bisher für mich alles so gut auf den Punkt bringen können.