How Men Think: The Seven Essential Rules for Making It in a Man's World Kindle Edition

I am a male who was a supervisor in the tech field for many years before retiring. During that time I had a young lady join what had been my all male team. After reading this book I can now appreciate all that this young lady had to deal with.I thought the author nails the reasons so many women find the male work environment a hostile place. She shows how women often run into problems because they don't understand the unwritten rules men unconsciously work by. She also shows that many of the conflicts women run into are because they think and behave very differently than men. She gives women the skills necessary to cope with this mismatch and explains the unwritten rules of the game. She does this without women having to compromise their better female qualities too much or by demonizing all men.I highly recommend this book and give it five stars.

This was a very good book to read. No, a great book to read! But, sets up a bunch of problems at work. Very good book to read and have in the back of your mind, but take with a grain of salt. Was written a long time ago, so don't read into it too much. Some of the earlier chapters are somewhat offensive.

I love this guy

I haven't read it yet, but was advised that it is a very important book for every working women to read.

Meh.

Throughout my life,I have noticed how women hold back when the vibes of competition are in the air, they have been taught to believe they cannot withstand the emotional and physical requirements needed for this expression of assertiveness..take heart,,this book can help you,especially if you have thought you had to be a 'female impersonator" all your life,you don't,use the masculine energy within to achieve goals and don't be afraid that someone may be thinking your too strong,,because you're never too strong.Women have been taught that they lack assertiveness but this is not true,it has been merely taught and can be untaught.It does give you room to be yourself,some women as myself,find that the male way of thinking comes naturally and also fierce singlemindedness, others may want to be more feminine in their approach but it depends on the individual.Some women DO get away with very male behavior such as ranting and raving at an employee,some don't,hard to explain yet I've seen it.Some will be respected for it and some will br called a #itch for some myterious reason..but being strong is definetly worth a try even if you shock some people a bit.Sometimes people HAVE to be shocked in order to change societal sterotypes, sometimes it takes alot of shock for change,there fore,if a woman shows that demominate edge... so be it.

Psychologist Mendell does a credible job in emphasizing the differences between how men interact with each other and how women interact. Her basic premise is that men view everything as a game, with set rules, with winners and losers, but do not take things personally. Women, on the other hand, are more interested in relationship building and concerned about other people's feelings rather than the scorecard. Since business is usually run by men, in order to succeed you must play by men's rules. Based on my observations over 25 years, I'd say that her theory was definitely true 20-25 years ago, when men were mostly in charge in the workplace, and the women were mostly secretaries and clerks. Back then, men did not even fill out their own timecards, but had their secretaries do it. Secretaries answered phone calls from the men's wives, and filled out grocery lists for them. The workplace was definitely more military like, with a lot of retired military men up the ranks. Women were definitely outside the norm, and a smart woman engineer was looked on with much suspicion and ridicule. However as technology advanced, voice mail and word processing systems took over the roles of secretaries, and men had to actually learn to type (gasp), and women became more confident and moved up the ranks, the business culture has changed to be more collaborative, emphasizing teamwork, interpersonal relationships, 360 degree assessments, and cross-functional horizontal teaming relationships. Suddenly, relationships mattered, whether between supplier and customer, employee and manager, engineering and marketing. Even the executives want to seem approachable, friendly and caring. So I don't see as much the harrassment of women, putdowns, feminizing, scare tactics and hostility as I did 20 years ago. Are the rules still tilted towards men's style? Yes, but not as much as Mendell suggests. Today, a lot of the collaborative behavior attributed to women is valued in the organization. While it is true that men still hold most of the top positions, and take most of the credit, the types of men that excel are not the old-line militaristic linebacker types, but ones that have figured out how to be diplomatic, concerned, and effective without resorting to caveman techniques.

I wish this book had been around when I joined the workforce in the late 80's, because I work in a mostly-male field and for years I was "the only one" everywhere I worked. Having been a tomboy when I was a child made some of the aspects of working in my field(civil engineering/construction)easier for me, but I still struggled with some of the other aspects, like fear of making mistakes and conflict. Through the school of "on the job training" I figured out a lot of the information presented in the book, but it was sometimes a very painful process. When I read the book, it verified for me that a lot of what I had figured out on my own over a period of 10 years was on the mark. If I had had this book when I started working, I believe I would have handled certain issues in the workplace differently. Although some of the information in the book is now somewhat dated, it is still a good book to read before you start your first job, because you will always be competing with someone in the workforce and the book offers strategies for successful habits.