Finding the Hero in Your Husband, Revisited: Embracing Your Power in Marriage Paperback – October 19, 2021

I have always been wary of books about marriage. I have read many that I have actually burned because not only were they not helpful to me at the time, they seemed to trivialize many of the struggles in marriage, which only frustrated me, hence the bonfire. Dr. Juli Slattery does not do this. She exudes compassion and understanding in each situation that she writes about in this book. She writes in language we can understand. It is not full of "psycho-babble" or "churchy language." Each of us can read the book as if it is written to us. It isn't a "how to" book but rather "How are you doing in this thing called marriage? Let's talk."Dr. Juli writes with the gospel of Jesus Christ as the foundation for our lives and the ultimate answer for our struggles. She shows her desire to communicate with wisdom from God and her training as a clinical psychologist as she leads us to action in our marriage struggles. You don't have to fear the word "submission" in her writings because, as she writes, "no submission is absolute, apart from submitting to God Himself." Her chapter "A Time to Stand" will help the reader understand that boundaries are sometimes needed and "Submission does not mean that you become weak."Also, Chapter 7 is about fighting...or rather understanding what fighting is and is not. If my husband and I had to pick one chapter that we wish we had understood before we married, it's this one. Conflict is not fighting. Conflict is an everyday aspect in many parts of life. "A conflict in marriage is any difference between you and your husband." How we handle the conflict can determine whether it becomes a fight. Dr. Juli offers some approaches to conflict that are much kinder than what my husband and I used for over 30 years.I would heartily recommend this book for wives, or soon to be wives. There is no book that can cover every aspect of every relationship. However, this is one of the books that addresses issues compassionately for every age group or length of marriage.

This book changes the way I see my marriage and my role in it. So thankful for the insight and heartfelt testimony of this author. So many revelations of Gods goodness and truth to walk in a Christ centered Marriage!

Juli has courageously and humbly re-written and updated the book that all modern, Christian wives need to read. I wish I could have read this book as a newlywed 17 years ago. Had I read it then, I may have saved myself a lot of heartache and mistakes. Juli writes in a way that truly guides Christian wives to embrace the power that God gives us in our marriages in a way that builds up our husbands and our homes. And I can attest from experience that this method works. As do so many aspects of our lives when we live the way the Lord intends for us to live. Rather than minimize our role as a woman, Juli shows us how through encouraging our husbands, respecting them and building them up, they will rise to the challenge. She addresses normal pitfalls that we may face, such as seeking to overcontrol our husbands, finding a work/home balance, and healthy sexuality in marriage.One of my favorite chapters was "How to Stand Up" in which Juli teaches us healthy boundaries in marriage and how to deal with controlling or semi abusive husbands. A topic that is not often addressed in many church settings but is so needed. She also addresses the submission issue from a very practical and godly perspective.I highly respect Dr. Juli Slattery and her work and ministry. In everything she writes she continually points the reader back to Christ. He is the ultimate pursuer of our hearts. His desire for deep intimacy with us is the picture that a godly Christian marriage paints to a watching world. Will we be found faithful, not only in our marriages, but ultimately to Him? Read this book and you will be encouraged, equipped, and enlightened as a wife and a Christian living in this current culture.

I am part of a small group of women from church who meet weekly to encourage each other toward growth in our marriage. We have read a few other good Christian marriage books together and listened to and discussed several Christian marriage podcasts. We have benefited from all of the resources we used but my favorite so far has been this book by Juli Slattery! Every chapter is full of such wise insight, Biblical truth in action, practical advice and genuine real life examples of victories and mistakes made. The pages of my copy are full of bright highlighter marks as there is so much “good stuff” that I want to remember and incorporate into my heart and marriage. The study guide at the end of the book provides questions on each chapter that guide our small group discussion. I highly recommend this book for women of any age or stage of marriage as it provides help and hope for every married woman who strives to grow in her love for God and her husband.

This book has cleared up some questions deep in my heart that I didn’t even know I was asking. It really made me drop my jaw in awe multiple times with how spot on it is! I even had my soon to be husband listen to a YouTube video over the book, and he agreed with all of it that was being said. He said, “It’s nice to finally have words to express these things.” So I recommend this book to not only women but men as well. Might even be a good read together!

We are doing a study with some friends and I’ve gotten amazing ideas and viewpoints. I feel blessed to have this in my new marriage and feel it brings up great things to share and reflect on within myself and my husband.

Prior to buying and reading this book, I have listened to extensive podcasts by this author, who has the ministry Authentic Intimacy, as well as multiple interviews, about this book’s release (as the author Re-wrote this book, after 20 years of lived experience since she wrote the first edition).The author is a highly educated woman, who had excelled in her profession. I appreciate her vulnerability to share of her own struggles/challenges, in living our life in a godly marriage.While the modern secular world wouldn’t agree with all its content; this hold excellent teaching and encouragement for all woman who desire to honour God and encourage their husband, to do the same.I think this book would be valueable to a married woman who is no longer in the “honeymoon” phase of marriage.This would be a great book to share with a friend and even read though, with another marriage friend.Worth every penny!!… and likely worth read reading, every so often!

Excellent book qualityExcellent book

Juli uses many biblical principles with Bible references. She uses engaging stories that relate to everyday challenges in marriage. She gives honest self reflection in her marriage.I recommend this book to anyone who is married, whether 1 month or 70 years.

Disappointed. This was a gift and it arrived damaged. It looks as though it was crushed. The other items in the delivery were in perfect condition. One can only assume it was shipped already used/damaged. :(