Attachments: Why You Love, Feel, and Act the Way You Do

This book is a true gift to parents and children, and children who grow up broken by life, trauma, and sin.Attachments will not classify you and dehumanize you, nor will it leave you with a sense of bitterness and blame for what may or may not have been provided for you in childhood. Childhood is a sacred time and so many things- for good and evil- impact us from those years.What attachments will do is shine light - a gift from God- on your soul and offer you self awareness. Light does not change reality, but simply reveals it. This is too much for some people and they will reject and rebel against it. But for many who have ears to hear, this book will guide you on your journey to wholeness in Christ.Personally coming from childhood trauma and a home of multiple divorces, this book has been a critical victory on my journey of understanding some of the dysfunction within. What is more, it has helped moved the needle from medicate-my-pain to process-my-pain, with God and others. This processing, combined with some of the disciplines mentioned in this book, may result in nothing short of transformation as it has in my life.My hope and prayer for everyone who reads this book- and I believe everyone should- is that you will receive the truth, bring that to God, and learn to live from the foundation that you are deeply loved by God. From that foundation, emotional wholeness and rich, self giving relationships are within reach. May it bless your life, and the lives of your children / future children.

This is one of the best, most comprehensive yet manageable length books I know on the crucial topic of our era. ATTACHMENT DISORDER fills our prisons, fosters divorce, mangles children, sets up rapes, trashes self-worth; shreds society; destroys redemptive culture . . . is a horrific tool used to destroy lives and good in many institutions in our society.The authors take a complex subject and communicate it clearly and simply.And, there are 10 steps for adult victims of ATTACHMENT DISORDER to help overcome the terrible consequences of such a childhood.The fact that MRI studies now show that serious ATTACHMENT DISORDER actually results in physiological "brain damage" in the areas of the brain having to do with emotional expression and managing relationships is plenty sobering enough.Seeing the parade of horrible leadership; rampant divorces; destroyed, terminated babies; rebellious teens; drug, alcohol, work, shopping etc addictions . . . it's easy to begin to feel hopeless.The authors provide wonderful practical rays of hope for those SERIOUSLY concerned and SERIOUSLY interested in becoming better, more healed and whole adults in meaningful, fulfilling and lasting emotionally connected and joyful relationships.If I could afford to, I'd buy one for every parent and teen in America . . . and around the world.I've given what I could away already. It's also available on Kindle.Sincerely,Dr D, PhD Clinical Psychology

I wish everybody had a copy of this book on their shelf. It is an easy book with examples directly related to the topics. It is a faith-based book aligned with solid psychology methodology. I highly recommend it. The product came perfectly.

I really enjoyed this book. It does mention Christianity, but it's not overwhelming. Just skip over those parts if it bothers you-- or don't buy the book, but it is worth reading. I like the science it includes, such as how we develop attachment styles from birth. Unfortuantely I lost the book on an airplane flight and wasn't able to fully read through it :(

I listened to this on Libby then had to buy it. I have also bought copies for friends and family now. This is a life changing book that everyone should read. I love that it not only talks about different types of attachment, but also why you react the way you do and most importantly how to improve and have better relationships. And it is all centered on God which is beautiful.

Even after reading just the first few chapters together with my husband, we were able to discuss some of our deep (and some deeply buried) childhood soul wounds, recognize how important it is to have secure parental and marital relationships are, and eventually talk about our fears and how to truly have a secure relationship with each other.For non-Christian’s, it doesn’t bring God up often so it seems pretty non-threatening. For Christians (and non-Christians) God absolutely facilitated a marriage-changing conversation with my husband while reading this book!

Compassionately written and always pointing the reader to God. This book has changed me and given me a better understanding of my husband.

OMG! Somehow I stumbled on this book by accident. I was looking for answers that no one could help me with. I prayed and I prayed trying to find the disconnect with the man that I've been dating for overly a year now. I know it was a disconnect. I thought perhaps I need to do some soul searching and find out what is wrong with me. I kept complaining about what he wasn't doing...whelp! I found what I was looking for. Not only did I understand my attachment style to be informative, but I also understand his. This book helps you have a clear understanding of the how's and the why's. I read this book in two days and now I'm reading it again. It's great! I recommend this book to anyone that's looking for the answers and wanting more profound and meaningful relationship(s).

Eye opening. Learned a lot about myself and recognized my own insecure relationship patterns. Now comes the hard part of changing them. I have been in recovery for twenty years and it always amazes me that I still have so far to go.

This is a wonderful book which I wished I'd found years ago. It manages to be both clear and straightforward about the psychology as well as readable. It describes how our experiences of loss and separation can shape our relationships and then provides some really useful insights into how we can work on this. The writers bring their Christian faith into this and demonstrate how a healthy relationship with our creator can provide a safe haven for us to heal. But for they also show how childhood loss might hinder us in growing secure in God's love. They then manage to get very practical about how to move forward, learn and acquire new security. Full of helpful stories which explain what's going on in our hearts. I recommend this book.

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Loved it, very insightful information on attachments and answered a lot of questions about how we get to where we are as adults.

This book has really helped me, and given me food for thought regarding raising my kids. I'm glad I came across it.