Falling in Love for All the Right Reasons: How to Find Your Soul Mate

Amid the plethora of books on the market that advise singles on how to find and keep Mr. or Miss Right, here is one that is an absolutely must-read for anyone serious about finding the best person with whom to pursue a marriage relationship.Falling in Love for All the Right Reasons is by Dr. Neil Clark Warren, a clinical psychologist and the founder of eHarmony.com, a popular dating site that uses a scientific approach to matchmaking. The site matches subscribers based on 29 dimensions of compatibility, each of which is discussed in detail in the book. The dimensions were developed using the results of an empirical study surveying over 5,000 married couples.The first chapter of the book gives a background on the history and development of eHarmony.com. For the meat and potatoes of the book, move on to Chapter 2, where the discussion of the 29 dimensions begins. Dr. Warren divides the dimensions into four groups. Each of the dimensions is given a chapter in which it is thoroughly discussed.The Screening DimensionsThe Screening Dimensions are the 7 which are more or less the basic minimum of compatibility dimensions, those that can make or break a relationship in a hurry. These include such traits as good character, anger management, and family background.The Core Personal DimensionsThe Core Personal Dimensions are the second group of 16 dimensions. These are qualities that tend to be deeply ingrained in a person and are difficult to change. Examples are intellect, spirituality, appearance, sense of humor, ambition, and sexual passion.Skills That Can Be DevelopedThe next 3 dimensions are not necessarily permanent traits, but rather, they are skills that can be honed with time and effort. These dimensions are communication, conflict resolution, and sociability.Qualities That Can Be DevelopedThe fourth and final group consists of 3 dimensions that are, as the name suggests, qualities that can be developed. These are adaptability, kindness, and dominance vs. submissiveness.Though the book is no doubt a tool for marketing eHarmony, it contains sound advice, even for those with no interest in the eHarmony service. It is well worth reading because too often, singles in our society are given so little solid knowledge of how to find a mate. As an example of this, Dr. Warren relates the following story:"Oh, I'll just know inside," one thirty-four year old man said when I asked him what standard he used in evaluating potential marriage partners. My dad always told me that I'd just know it deep down in my gut when the right woman comes along."Isn't that ironic? That fellow's father probably spent more time teaching him how to tie his shoelaces than he spent teaching his son how to make the most important decision in his life.I can't speak highly enough of this book. It isn't a book about how to get a date, or even how to attract a marriage partner. Instead, it is a guidebook for knowing exactly what elements are essential in a life-long partner. In a sense, it is a checklist to use when evaluating each and every potential relationship partner. Yes, perhaps having a checklist sounds unromantic, but in light of the fact that 75 percent of all marriages either end in divorce or unhappiness, evaluating a romantic partner based on these 29 dimensions makes perfect sense.

What a gem of a book. I had just finished reading the author's book "Date Or Soul Mate?" and I saw this other book and I had to have it.Both books should be bought together. If you are single,divorced or whatever,you should read this book first. It makes you realise why some relationships fail and why some work.This book will show you why we need to be selective when looking for love.Its about finding the right one and eliminating the wrong ones.This book explains the 29 dimensions of compatibility.You need to read all about those,its a real wake up call. The author explains everything to you.I love his advice.I love the way he communicates his ideas.Its something we all need to do to see where we went wrong and how to get it right and why. He gives examples of everything.Its brilliant reading.I recommend you buy this book first ,"Falling In Love For All The Right Reasons" and then the author's book "Date Or Soul Mate?" too. You will see that there's also some promoting of eHarmony.com in both books. Between these 2 books it will open your eyes to see there's a better world for your future relationships.I would recommend you read this book first," Falling In Love For All The Right Reasons", then read the author's book: "Date Or Soul Mate?" . Both books are ideal together.Its worth the effort. Date or Soul Mate?: How to Know if Someone is Worth Pursuing in Two Dates or Less Are You the One for Me?: Knowing Who's Right and Avoiding Who's Wrong

I would consider this a follow-up or sequel to Dr. Warren's book Date or Soul Mate?While Date or Soul Mate? could be a basic introduction to eHarmony, Falling in Love for All the Right Reasons takes us into more details regarding eHarmony's 29 Dimensions of Compatibility.Again, eHarmony is about compatibility -- the more compatible you are with your intended, the happier you will be, the greater chance of success you will have in your relationship.Chapter 1 is a history of how eHarmony began.Chapter 2 is an introduction to the remainder of the book.There is a chapter devoted to each of the 29 Dimensions of Compatibility.There is a chapter on Chemistry, and another chapter on Commitment.If you have wondered about eHarmony's 29 Dimensions of Compatibility, this is the book form (as opposed to joining eHarmony) which will explain those Dimensions.From what I understand from the final "chapter" "How eHarmony Works," we should be able to join eHarmony in order to take advantage of its personality profile without having to pay for a membership. If I understand correctly, paid membership begins when you want to start meeting your soul mate.Perhaps the most difficult part of this book is taking an honest look at yourself and where you currently are as opposed to whatever fantasy life you think you might prefer. I have a lot of work to do on myself before I can honestly be ready for someone new. Well, if I want the relationship to work, that is.

Amazing book. I've bought several copies for friends. A must read for all

good marriage prep wisdom...and can help prevent relational disaster